By Cynthia J. Porter, PhD
Who or what, you may ask, is NED?
NED is an acronym for anything that is New, Emotional, and Difficult. As an example, let's say that you trained your body to consume junk food and lie around on the sofa, and that you did it so well, that even when you try to change it, you can't. Rather, trying to change your habits makes you feel stressed out, frustrated, or angry.
Why, you ask, is that so? Because when you try something new, it feels awkward, it knocks your emotional state out of whack, and that feels downright difficult. That's NED for you.
Do you know people who allow stress to consume their lives? Stress management is hard, they say. Yet for the human body, achieving stress relief isn't difficult at all. Our bodies know exactly how to release just the right hormones to calm us down and make us feel good. The intelligence of your body knows exactly how to manage stress. The difficult part is changing your thoughts and beliefs so that your body can do what it does best. This is where the magic of self hypnosis comes into play.
In the state of hypnosis, thoughts and behaviors that are new or difficult can be rehearsed at the subjective level of the mind. At this inner level, time is suspended and your body doesn't know the difference between real or imagined.
Once you have practiced new behaviors at this level, you will have them when and where you need them. New behaviors will seem like old behaviors—as comfortable as a favorite old pair of shoes. Stress reduction is one of the main benefits of hypnosis. You can practice in the laboratory of the mind what you don't have time for in real life. There's not much you can do that's more stress reducing than that.
There are three simple steps to ridding yourself of NED's influence:
Step One. Pretend that you know what is going to happen in the future. If you were trying to lose weight, for example, you would simply pretend that you enjoy healthy, natural foods more than junk food. You would pretend that the long-term effect of what you eat is more important than immediate gratification. Most importantly, you would practice pretending at the subjective level—in hypnosis.
At the national hypnosis franchise, Positive Changes Hypnosis Centers, clients are given the opportunity to attend self hypnosis classes as a part of their program. During each class, they are trained on how to get to that inner level of thinking where you are unaware of your body, but very aware of your creative, capable mind. Problem solving is a snap in this state of mind. Physician and philosopher Deepak Chopra tells us that 95 percent of what will happen tomorrow we already know about today. What if you were to pretend that this is true? You would already have eliminated 33 percent of NED! You see, managing stress really isn't difficult at all, when you become honest with yourself.
Step Two. During your mental rehearsals, imagine a smile on your face and positive emotions flowing through you. Have you ever noticed how when you are stressed or angry, you stop breathing? Something chemical occurs in your body when you breathe. When you breathe deeply, your brain creates neuro-chemicals of relaxation and calm. When you hold your breath, your brain creates neuro-chemicals of fear.
One time-tested stress reduction technique involves imagining joyful and loving feelings flowing through you with every breath you take. Make sure that each breath is an even and complete cycle. This means that stress release can be as simple as taking a deep breath in open air. So you can eliminate another 33 percent of NED by regaining control of your emotions. With practice you will learn to breathe your way through even the most difficult situations.
Step Three: Eliminate or minimize your NEDs by breaking down any job into its smallest pieces. Let me give you an example. Pretend you need to lose 40 pounds. What would you do? If you truly want success, you would drink 8 glasses of water a day. Do you have this ability? You would eat sparingly and slowly and only at mealtime. Do you have this ability? You would stop eating after your dinner meal. Do you have this ability?
If you answered yes to these three questions, then you have the ability to return to your natural and ideal weight. If you have the ability, then what we need to help you uncover is your response to these abilities. You know what this means, right? You simply need to build respons-ability for lasting success.
Take a few moments to contemplate where your NEDs need changing. How can you change your thinking about New, Emotional and Difficult situations so that you can life a stress free lifestyle? When you plan and prepare for life, you can expect wonderful things to happen!
Cynthia J. Porter is a certified hypnotherapist. She has worked with the renowned Positive Changes Hypnosis Centers franchise since its inception. Positive Changes Hypnosis Centers are located in cities across the US. For information on their services or to purchase self hypnosis audio recordings visit www.positivechanges.com